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[kragore]

Just because I'm bound to love members of my family doesn't mean I have to like them very much.

Anyone got a quick cure for Depressed Passive-aggressive Anti-social Grumpy Old Man Yankee-ness? Because right now a swift kick in the ass is looking really appealing.

Or leaving and not coming back until he gets and additude adjustment.

- k.

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[embermwe.livejournal.com]

Um, option 2 would likely be my response, at least for a while.

[nomadmwe.livejournal.com]

If he's anything like my dad (and I think he is, in many ways), that's the way to go. Leave for a bit, return when things blow over.

[kragore.livejournal.com]

The thing is it's always the same. Everytime I come home, the guy's like a freakin' yo-yo. Happy to have all his family under his roof again, then by the end of the week, finding something about every one of us to tear apart.
I'm lucky enough to be able to leave. LittleBrother can't wait to leave in the fall. He's driving his family away from him, and at this point, I'm not sure I'm strong enough to stand by and take the crap.
But mom has to live with it, as does Carkiller. and his disregard of everyone's feelings but his own pisses me off.

sorry, that turned into a much longer rant than I intended it to...
- k.

::hugs::

[embermwe.livejournal.com]

Yup. Self centered vitiol is hard. Sometimes the only reaction to deal with it is to protect yourself and others as best you can, and get out of harms way.

brave but shows results. . .

[illustrator.livejournal.com]

my dad does this too. . .
and when he does i point it out. . usually in the form of a question. . ."do you know that you just picked out something to harp on that was going to upset everyone?"

sometimes being direct can shake someone out of a stupor.
all his children are leaving him. i think its about control . . .and feeling like he has no effect on anything. . .so pointing out that he is having an effect, and a bad one. . .might bring him to a new place in his mind. . .

i also turn it towards myself. . .as i can only say how i feel. . .like, "you know, when you're like this i just want to leave and not come back for a really long time. . ."

maybe he's not someone you can confront. . .but i find being direct helps. . .i can't imagine he's talking to anyone about the empty-nest syndrome and the fact that no one wants to take over learning the life that your parents lived. . .

Re: brave but shows results. . .

[kragore.livejournal.com]

That's the bloody thing! Carkiller *Wants* to!
And all he's doing, and he's been doing my entire life, is pushing us all away.

You can't confront him because he's never rational. he will not hear what is coming out of your mouth, he'll only take it as an attack. There is no logic, there is no calm talking about how he's fucking up. There's just storming away in a huff to hide up on his mountainside.

Christ, I had more constructive arguements with theBossMan.

...grrr....
- k.