Seriously.

My sister is getting married this July. It's going to be very casual and laid back.
My mother is insistent on throwing her a pre-wedding Tea.
Not a Shower.
No gifts necessary.
Just an excuse for the women folk to get together and eat finger sandwiches at an event other than a funeral.
But popular opinion is that it will be perceived as a shower, regardless.
And that if one is invited to a shower, even if it isn't, one is automagically invited to the wedding.
But she's not inviting a lot of people to the wedding because weddings are bloody expensive.
So I had to align my mother's invite list to my sister's invite list and make sure no one was left off that she'd be heart broken over.
But now Mother is pissy because I asked sister to look at the invite list.
As if she didn't know she was going to get an anti-shower.

Etiquette Sucks Balls.