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Hey there kids -
This has become an issue recently.
I'm not wearing a colored belt, (red, yellow, or green) at my discretion, not from a lack of offers.

This is in No Way a reflection of the offer-ers. They are kind, skilled, and supportive individuals. They see something in me I'm still working on.
I don't feel I'm in an emotionally stable enough place to take on the commitment involved with that type of relationship, regardless of what level of commitment is actually involved.
I appreciate those who have my best interest at heart and want to advocate for me - but where I'm at right now is working for me.

It might change. But I have discussed my situation at length with the players involved, and they are granting me the time and space to grow with and into my decisions.

Date: 2014-04-02 08:40 pm (UTC)

Date: 2014-04-02 09:49 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Well, yes and no. Because what I'm/we're doing is not a recognized model, some are seeking to impose the preconceived model on me/us without understanding the back story.
This has led to some unfortunate and uncomfortable situations where I feel unnecessarily burdened to defend my choices if people would just leave well enough alone.

Date: 2014-04-02 11:08 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
To be clear, IMNSHO, "The Recognized Model," can go hang if it is not serving the needed purpose. Particularly if the actually involved parties in a particular situation can agree on a better method.
The SCA is a voluntary organization that we do as fun and recreation. One of the best things about it in my opinion is that it can use as much or as few personal resources as one is willing/able to give it at any given time with no harm, no foul, so long as we communicate clearly and do not overcommit.
Good on you for not overcommitting and for communicating clearly, and Pooh on "Them," for trying to impose from an outside 3rd party standpoint, relationships and commitments that are not agreed to by actually concerned parties.


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