Feb. 3rd, 2014 09:40 pm
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My sister is getting married this July. It's going to be very casual and laid back.
My mother is insistent on throwing her a pre-wedding Tea.
Not a Shower.
No gifts necessary.
Just an excuse for the women folk to get together and eat finger sandwiches at an event other than a funeral.
But popular opinion is that it will be perceived as a shower, regardless.
And that if one is invited to a shower, even if it isn't, one is automagically invited to the wedding.
But she's not inviting a lot of people to the wedding because weddings are bloody expensive.
So I had to align my mother's invite list to my sister's invite list and make sure no one was left off that she'd be heart broken over.
But now Mother is pissy because I asked sister to look at the invite list.
As if she didn't know she was going to get an anti-shower.

Etiquette Sucks Balls.

Date: 2014-02-04 02:51 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Welp, you can always do pot luck and then everyone can invite as many people as they want! Plus the food is ususally very good compared to catered affairs

Date: 2014-02-04 05:43 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I've been informed by the masses and the internet that potluck weddings are generally considered inferior, as if weddings haven't been potluck for hundreds of years.
I know the caterer on this one, it will be delicious. :)

Date: 2014-02-04 03:18 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Sigh. The quickest and surest way to piss off the max amount of people with minimal effort is to announce a marriage. Oy.

Working to keep at least one part stress-less...

Date: 2014-02-04 05:45 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
OMG such the truth.

I'm sure it will be fine. I just have to keep reminding my rather control-freak mother that you do, in fact, know how to make lemonade. Flavored, perhaps with watermelon, even. That as the caterer, it's kinda your JOB.


Date: 2014-02-04 04:52 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
If it helps, I didn't care about knowing *who* was going to be there as I did getting a surprise as to *when*.

Of course, all that got spoiled by my mother-in-law insisting that *I* tell her when it was going to be, rather than just calling my mother.

My mother-in-law was a pain in the ass.

Date: 2014-02-04 05:46 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Oh I'm glad.
Sister really hates surprises, and hates being fussed over. So I had to let on that something was happening, or I could see her turning into a horse that just won't trailer - bucking and kicking and making a fuss.

She doesn't know when, or where, or exactly what. she just knows there will be a party, and maybe who will be there.

I will live through July. I will live through July.

Date: 2014-02-04 05:49 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Well, maybe if the surprise is important to your mom, you guys can conspire to act surprised.

It'll all be fine. Just remember to elope when it's your turn. ;-)

Date: 2014-02-04 06:46 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
No kidding.
It's looking better and better...

Date: 2014-02-05 01:55 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I highly recommend elopements with big parties after all the screaming is over.
And THAT party can be Potluck!!! :P

Date: 2014-02-05 02:44 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Oh man.. I fought thought this twice. And.. it's.. I dunno.. fake? If I get married again, it's going to be on my own rules (well.. mine and whomever I am deciding to marry of course.)

Date: 2014-02-06 01:55 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Yea, this is kind of giving me a template of what I don't want to do. Or at least things to keep in mind as "things I'd like to work around if possible."

Nice thing about her getting hitched first is that it takes the pressure off me.

Date: 2014-02-07 11:40 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Benefits of getting married when you're almost 50...

• You've gotten over the dumb shit
• You know it's YOUR wedding, not your parents

Best of the best to the bride & groom!


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